“Do not try to seem wise to others.” – Epictetus
Yes, there is the internal yearning to be affirmed by others. When that becomes a priority, you have given yourself over to the opinions of the masses.
When the voice inside you becomes louder than the voices outside, you have become the master.
Others are averse to being made to look stupid.
So, LISTEN actively. Explore what others think and feel, tactfully. With the attention on them, they feel free to explore the extent of their wisdom and to expand it. And your ears and queries reveal your own wisdom without drawing attention to yourself.
Always be honest no matter what = Be who you really are with kind regard for others’ performances, whether of endorsement or criticism. That is true wisdom.